Lowndes Leil. How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

Mc Graw-Hill, 2003. — 365 p. — ISBN: 0-07-141858-X.What is that magic quality makes some people instantly loved and respected? Everyone wants to be their friend (or, if single, their lover!) In business, they rise swiftly to the top of the corporate ladder. What is their "Midas touch?"
What it boils down to is a more skillful way of dealing with people.
The author has spent her career teaching people how to communicate for success. In her book How to Talk to Anyone (Contemporary Books, October 2003) Lowndes offers 92 easy and effective sure-fire success techniques-- she takes the reader from first meeting all the way up to sophisticated techniques used by the big winners in life. In this information-packed book you’ll find:
9 ways to make a dynamite first impression
14 ways to master small talk, "big talk," and body language
14 ways to walk and talk like a VIP or celebrity
6 ways to sound like an insider in any crowd
7 ways to establish deep subliminal rapport with anyone
9 ways to feed someone's ego (and know when NOT to!)
11 ways to make your phone a powerful communications tool
15 ways to work a party like a politician works a room
7 ways to talk with tigers and not get eaten alive
In her trademark entertaining and straight-shooting style, Leil gives the techniques catchy names so you'll remember them when you really need them, including: "Rubberneck the Room," "Be a Copyclass," "Come Hither Hands," “Bare Their Hot Button,” “The Great Scorecard in the Sky," and "Play the Tombstone Game,” for big success in your social life, romance, and business.Introduction: How to Get Anything You Want from Anybody (Well, at Least Have the Best Crack at It!)
Part One: How to Intrigue Everyone Without Saying a Word: You Only Have Ten Seconds to Show You’re a Somebody
How to Make Your Smile Magically Different.
How to Strike Everyone as Intelligent and Insightful by Using Your Eyes
How to Use Your Eyes to Make Someone Fall in Love with You
How to Look Like a Big Winner Wherever You Go.
How to Win Their Heart by Responding to Their “Inner Infant”
How to Make Someone Feel Like an Old Friend at Once
How to Come Across as Percent Credible to Everyone
How to Read People Like You Have ESP
How to Make Sure You Don’t Miss a Single Beat
Part Two: How to Know What to Say After You Say “Hi”
How to Start Great Small Talk.
How to Sound Like You’ve Got a Super Personality (No Matter What You’re Saying!)
How to Make People Want to Start a Conversation with You
How to Meet the People You Want to Meet
How to Break into a Tight Crowd
How to Make “Where Are You From?” Sound Exciting.
How to Come Out a Winner Every Time They Ask, “And What Do You Do?”
How to Introduce People Like the Host(ess) with the Most(est)
How to Resuscitate a Dying Conversation
How to Enthrall ’Em with Your Choice of Topic — Them!
How to Never Need to Wonder, “What Do I Say Next?”
How to Get ’Em Happily Chatting (So You Can Slip Away if You Want To!)
How to Come Across as a Positive Person
How to Always Have Something Interesting to Say
Part Three: How to Talk Like a VIP
How to Find Out What They Do (Without Even Asking!).
How to Know What to Say When They Ask, “What Do You Do?”.
How to Sound Even Smarter Than You Are
How to Not Sound Anxious (Let Them Discover Your Similarity)
How to Be a “You-Firstie” to Gain Their Respect and Affection
How to Make Them Feel You “Don’t Smile at Just Anybody”
How to Avoid Sounding Like a Jerk.
How to Use Motivational Speakers’ Techniques to Enhance Your Conversation
How to Banter Like the Big Shots Do (Big Winners Tell It Like It Is)
How to Avoid the World’s Worst Conversational Habit
How to Give Them the Bad News (and Have Them Like You All the More).
How to Respond When You Don’t Want to Answer (and Wish They’d Shut the Heck Up)
How to Talk to a Celebrity.
How to Make Them Want to Thank You
Part Four: How to Be an Insider in Any Crowd: What Are They All Talking About?
How to Be a Modern-Day Renaissance Man or Woman
How to Sound Like You Know All About Their Job or Hobby
How to Bare Their Hot Button (Elementary Doc-Talk)
How to Secretly Learn About Their Lives
How to Talk When You’re in Other Countries
How to Talk Them into Getting the “Insider’s Price” (on Practically Anything You Buy)
Part Five: How to Sound Like You’re Peas in a Pod: “Why, We’re Just Alike!”.
How to Make Them Feel You’re of the Same “Class”
How to Make Them Feel That You’re Like “Family”.
How to Really Make It Clear to Them
How to Make Them Feel You Empathize (Without Just Saying “Yep, Uh Huh, Yeah”)
How to Make Them Think You See/Hear/Feel It Just the Way They Do
How to Make ’Em Think We (Instead of You vs. Me)
How to Create a Friendly “Private Joke” with Them
Part Six: How to Differentiate the Power of Praise from the Folly of Flattery
How to Compliment Someone (Without Sounding Like You’re Brownnosing)
How to Be a “Carrier Pigeon” of Good Feelings
How to Make ’Em Feel Your Admiration “Just Slipped Out”
How to Win Their Hearts by Being an “Undercover Complimenter”
How to Make ’Em Never Forget You with a “Killer Compliment”
How to Make ’Em Smile with “Itty-Bitty Boosters”.
How to Praise with Perfect Timing
How to Make ’Em Want to Compliment You
How to Make a Loved One Feel You Are the Partner for Life
Part Seven: How to Direct Dial Their Hearts
How to Sound More Exciting on the Phone
How to Sound Close (Even if You’re Hundreds of Miles Away)
How to Make ’Em Happy They Called You.
How to Sneak Past the Gatekeeper
How to Get What You Want on the Phone from Big Shots
How to Get What You Want — by Timing!
How to Impress Everyone with Your Outgoing Voicemail Message
How to Get Them to Call You Back
How to Make the Gatekeeper Think You’re Buddy-Buddy with the VIP
How to Make Them Say You Have Super Sensitivity
How to “Listen Between the Lines” on the Phone
Part Eight: How to Work a Party Like a Politician Works a Room: The Politician’s Six-Point Party Checklist
How to Avoid the Most Common Party Blooper
How to Make an Unforgettable Entrance
How to Meet the People YOU Want to Meet
How to Subliminally Lure People to You at a Gathering
How to Make ’Em Feel Like a Movie Star
How to Amaze Them with What You Remember About Them
How to Make the Sale with Your Eyeballs
Part Nine: How to Break the Most Treacherous Glass Ceiling of All: Sometimes People Are Tigers
How to Win Their Affection by Overlooking Their Bloopers
How to Win Their Heart When Their Tongue Is Faltering
How to Let ’Em Know “What’s in It” for Them
How to Make Them Want to Do Favors for You
How to Ask for Favors (and Get Them!)
How to Know What Not to Say at Parties
How to Know What Not to Say at Dinner
How to Know What Not to Say in a Chance Meeting
How to Prepare Them to Listen to You
How to Turn Their Anger Around (in Three Sentences or Less)
How to Make ’Em Like You (Even When You’ve Messed Up)
How to Trap a Rat with Class
How to Get Whatever You Want from Service Personnel
How to Be a Leader in a Crowd, Not a Follower
How to Make All the Right Moves